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When you're tired of being strong...

All your life you've had to fight...for yourself...for others..whether you wanted to or not..and now you're tired.

If I'm not strong, I'm weak.

Fighters are strong. They do what they have to do. Being weak is not an option. But when you meet an opponent that is stronger and has more stamina than you, you can find yourself knocked down. You may feel obligated to get up, but you don't want to. But if you stay down, will that mean you're weak? If you throw in the towel and admit fatigue, are you less than? Weakness is not an option for you. But what about being human?

Being human means we have limits. We are not indestructible and we need rest. Being strong, hard, and tough has protected you and those around you. You had to do what needed to be done because no one else was going to do it. Now you're used to being "the one who ________." But the opponent (grief, depression, anxiety, panic attacks, transition, abuse, trauma, oppression) has worn you down and you don't have the strength to fight back. You're not weak. You're vulnerable.

Strength in Vulnerability

What doesn't bend, under immense pressure, will break. Our beloved Hernando Desoto Bridge between Memphis and West Memphis, AR is an illustration of that. If you've ever had the pleasure of being at a stand still on the bridge, you know that it sways just a bit. It was engineered to withstand seismic activity and treacherous weather conditions. It is strong because it sways. Learning to embrace flexibility can help you to withstand the pressures of life.

Here’s how to do it:

  1. Ask for help when you need it.

  2. Say NO when you're not up to the task.

  3. Allow others to manage their responsibilities.

  4. Take time to take care of yourself.

  5. Feel your feelings!

Call (901)949-3602 for more information.

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