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With this ring.....I/me wed...


The wedding ring... a classic symbol of happily ever after and the goal of many. For most, this item symbolizes love; unconditional and forever in nature. It is evidence that you are enough and that someone chose you. We usually take vows when we agree to wear this symbol. Those vows usually include promises such as..."to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part..." We await the day that we hear those words uttered by our beloved and echoed ourselves, in return. But what about having such a commitment with ourselves???

As with many other issues, we often look outwardly, searching for someone to fulfil our needs. We lack awareness of our ability to do so for ourselves. In many cases, we have no idea what these concepts even mean, yet alone, how to achieve them. We chase a feeling. We want to feel safe, wanted, and accepted. The wedding ring becomes a symbol of those feelings all wrapped into one. We hope that securing one for ourselves ends our search for this feeling, allowing us to relax and to live in this comfort zone called "in love". What could be wrong with this picture?

The problem lies with dependence on, sometimes demanding, a partner to pledge these conditions to us without having made such a pledge to ourselves. Do we hold ourselves to the same standard where we are concerned? Are we showing, providing an example of how these vows should look, concerning ourselves? Do we offer the same unconditional pledge of love to self...for better or worse, richer or poorer, bigger or smaller????? What if we could?

What vows would you like to make to yourself? Write your own. Think about the words you'd love to hear your partner speak in the form of an unconditional promise that is meant to last until death. Make those promises to yourself. How would that look?

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